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Green Velvet

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Sometimes, caring for a houseplant offers lessons on life itself. Not in a moralizing, superior kind of way, but an ‘implanting,’ as it were, or ‘grounding.’ Enlightenment. Reminders.

I have been ‘in relationship’ with a dear houseplant for the past many months. They were an impulse purchase, as I made my way to the cash register at my local hardware store. 

offer love, instinctively and always 

I had not intended to buy another houseplant for the house. This one looked especially dear, and seemed to reach out for me as I wandered by.  They had deep green triangular leaves with cream veining and I couldn’t resist a gentle brush touch of these, a sensation that was soothing, silky, and soft. The tag read “Green Velvet, Alocasia Frydek Variegated” and was labeled ‘easy to grow.’ 

you don’t always know if or how someone hurts

I had the perfect place for Green Velvet at my home. However, almost immediately after ‘settling in,’  Green Velvet’s leaves began to droop, and I began a quest to figure out what was wrong.

life is hard

Did they have some sort of pest? Had I overwatered it? Or underwatered it? Was it sickly at the hardware store, and I missed this entirely? Were the light conditions wrong? What was happening?

be curious

Green Velvet continued to yellow and wither, and I was truly baffled. In general, I am quite good/sensitive with plants but I was clearly failing this one. The plant simply could not adjust to the transition to my home.

growth involves stumbles

It seemed as if every day, another leaf shriveled and decayed. The plant was becoming this sickly sight, anemic stems with browned tips, and very few leaves remaining. I searched the internet for advice:

Place your Alocasia in bright, indirect light. Avoid direct sunlight, as it can scorch the leaves. If the leaves start to turn pale or yellow, it may be an indication that the plant is receiving too much light. Move it to a slightly shadier location.

Chalet Boutique

Perhaps the morning light was not what it wanted. Maybe it was too direct. I moved it to another window, hoping for a different angle of the sun. Maybe this western window would work better? 

try to be present and attentive

Wrong. The dear plant continued to decay, fold, rot. Truly, it almost melted before my eyes. The whole thing simply fizzled away. 

reach out to those who grieve

Feeling so very sad, I trimmed off the last limp, dead leaf. I took the plant out into my backyard and knelt down, and tipped the pot over while holding onto the plant itself, shaking the potting soil loose onto the ground. I noticed something very surprising: the plant felt strong in my hands; the corms or bulbs were not spongy or rotten, as I would have suspected, but quite hard, ‘fit.” 

be a listener. hear others.

I turned on the garden house and rinsed off the corms. Then I washed the garden pot. I repotted the plant/corms in all new potting soil and I brought Green Velvet back inside, placing it back on the western windowsill in my warm living room. 

dare to consider a new perspective

I gave the new soil a bit of water. I waited. Week by week, I watered Green Velvet regularly, being sure to let the plant become completely dry first before watering anew.

remember to give others space
have patience
always remember, patience
be gentle

A few weeks went by, and I saw the smallest hint of green growth. I kept on. Slowly, slowly, slowly. 

hope

It has been about four months since I repotted Green Velvet, and I am delighted by how well they are doing. They are flourishing! Knock on wood, I have figured out just the right mix of attention and neglect. I’m so glad I didn’t completely give up and just throw the plant away. Let me share a photo: 

Green Velvet 

offer love, instinctively and always
you don’t always know if or how someone hurts
life is hard

be curious
growth involves stumbles
try to be present and attentive
reach out to those who grieve.
be a listener. hear others.
dare to consider a new perspective
remember to give others space
have patience
always remember, patience
be gentle


hope


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The Robin

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Is there any special meaning when a robin crosses your path? They are, to my eye, the very harbinger of spring. Some say they offer good luck, positivity, and joy. Others say a robin suggests growth, renewal, change. 

It’s one thing to see them bob-bob-bobbin’ along across the lawn, perhaps pulling a worm from the ground. It’s another thing entirely, in my opinion, what’s been going on at my house recently. Early one morning a couple weeks ago, a robin tapped at our bedroom window, not once, not twice, but over and over. The same robin returned the next day. And many days thereafter. Here, our granddaughter (amusingly, nicknamed “Bird”) discovers him, tapping hello –

Scientists posit that this behavior means that they are being territorial, that they can see their reflection and are ‘fighting off’ another bird:

If a robin has chosen your yard and location as a good site (yeah for you as they are very cool birds), then both parents will defend that area throughout the nesting period. That means that ‘other’ robin in the window is a real threat to them. The more energy and time they take to fight that guy, the less they spend with their babies or eggs or feeding. So, it is helpful for the bird for you to intervene and convince them that the bird they are seeing is gone. 

Native Bird Care (Oregon)

We’ve lived in this house more than thirty years; I’ve never seen such bird behavior before. What has changed? We are quite certain our visitor is one robin and not a variety of robins; we have been studying their feathers and shape. Thinking that the nearby shrubs might be harboring a bird’s nest, I went out and checked out the landscaping in the vicinity of our bedroom window. There was no sign of a bird’s nest. The robin must be feeling territorial for some other reason than protecting a nest. Perhaps they have discovered some yummy nearby ‘fast food’ berries or worms, and are trying to protect their stash from other robins? 

Just today, I added this crocheted shawl to the window in order to change the light and glare, to reduce the possibility of the robin seeing their reflection:

This is not the look I was going for in my bedroom, but I’m beginning to feel responsible and worried about that robin. They’ve left dozens of scratch marks on my window glass; their beak must be getting quite sore.

One day in, the stats are great: no robin visited the window today. Let me close with a simple revision of Rock-In Robin:

He rocks at our window all day long
Hoppin' and a-boppin' and a-singing his song
All the lil’ people that live at this house
Are trying to figure this out, out, out

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Musing

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Someone is singing an opera in my backyard as I write; they’ve been at it all morning. My Merlin app tells me they are a Northern Flicker, a visually beautiful dear soul with dotted plumage, yet I cannot catch even one tiny glance. They prefer to sing from deep within the leafing branches of the maple tree, and perhaps their song is one of lament because I am not able to see them. Yes, I put myself at the center of their song.

I don’t know what to tell you.

Hmm.

Does anyone else have trouble starting a ‘Slice of Life,’ now that the March challenge is over and the writing is not daily? 

Which personal thread to grab onto and run-write with it? 

I simply don’t know.

I could tell you about my relaxing weekend in the woods, on retreat with my book group. I could write about our conversation about Ann Patchett’s Tom Lake. Oh, and how a few of us watched the 1940 film classic of Our Town, as a little ‘background’ for the book. 

(Should I tell you how surprising it was that this movie deigned to create a new ‘happy’ ending for Thornton Wilder’s play?)

I could focus on just one hike, share with you the sweet spring growth I observed. Here are a couple photos of this emergence:

Oh, but I’ve shared about countless hikes in this space.

How about I tell you about the book I’m reading – Terrance Hayes’ Watch Your Language? I am absolutely awed by his witty and playful writing, how he draws clever doodles throughout the book, and simultaneously offers so much scholarly wisdom on Black poets and the history of modern poetry in general. He is piercing many myths I have swallowed whole. With every page, my understanding and curiosity about poetry expands.

I don’t know where to begin.

Consider this excerpt about Gwendolyn Brooks, as he considers the historical timeline of ‘modern great poets’ –

Brooks makes any conversation about American poetry of the last half century more interesting. Brooks was born in 1917, the same year as Robert Lowell, who won the Pulitzer in 1947, three years before Brooks. When he passed in 1977 Lowell was considered one of the chief poets of the twentieth century. He taught both Anne Sexton and Sylvia Plath. His family history could be traced back to the Mayflower.

As Robert Lowell is to Anne Sexton and Sylvia Plath, Brooks is to several generations of poets. Brooks met with James Baldwin and many Black poets of the era in her living room. I wish there was a better record of her relationship with Sonia Sanchez, their chats about motherhood, poetry, Blackness, community. Sonia Sanchez published her debut, Homecoming, in 1969, the same year Lucille Clifton published her debut, Good Times. Audre Lorde published The First Cities, her debut, in 1968. Brooks was a central figure in the work of all three poets.

Terrance Hayes, Watch Your Language, pp 24-25
He notes, 
“She often goes unacknowledged the way caretakers and angels go unacknowledged.”

Terrance Hayes’ writing sends me tumbling, makes me pause, reflect, and re-read. He makes me wonder about all the details that were left out of my schooling. I chase down my Gwendolyn Brooks poetry book and lose myself within.

There is so much I was never taught.
There is so much that was so dull about the way I was taught.
There is so much more to learn.

Why was I never challenged to question?

I don’t know what to tell you.

Let me close with a poem I wrote yesterday for Ethical ELA, where Angie Braaten prompted us to write an elegy, with inspiration from Clint Smith's poem “Playground Elegy.” Honestly, I think all of my above rambles fed into this poem:
Textbook Elegy

The first time       I penned                  my name and date
in that       rectangle stamp       of the history textbook 
reading the     names of students     from years before 
I turned   quickly   to      chapter one,              devouring. 
Each   line      of text     so pure and real and insightful.
I studied every page and absorbed  great knowledge.
I looked forward      to the next year’s               textbook
revealing    so much                 more                 of the world.
It would be  years   before I noticed its     white space. 
I knew sanitized only from the bathroom.          I knew
sifted from cakes,                      left out from friendships,
omitted from   don’t say that      around mom and dad. 
I didn’t know                 what                              I didn’t know. 
I read with joy,                     absorbing believing trusting.
Now I wonder who   powers  every single line of text
and do students wonder about this and does anyone
know         what is not written.  
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#SOL24-30 Three

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As his colleagues shared their farewells, I took notes:

“an upstanding man”
“a mentor, a coach, a friend”
“he assured everyone who worked with him, especially his interns, ‘this place is full of opportunities; if this is something you are interested in - go for it.”

I was the proverbial fly on the wall, listening and learning, at my brother’s retirement.

My brother “Three” ( of my four brothers) and I are thirteen months apart in age and have always been close. We both settled in the Washington, D.C. area after college. (Isn’t ‘settled’ a funny word to describe all the ups and downs, the gyrations, the unpredictability of life, anywhere?) The years have tumbled by, with so many loving connections – we hung out together as young singles, then we each got married, followed by a blur of years raising children, hosting playdates and sleepovers between our boys, family holidays and special dinners, supporting our parents in their declining health, music concerts, road races, and other fun pastimes, and holding each other up in times of grief and challenge. We have always shared stories about work with one another, but honestly, work life was never the primary topic of conversation – especially, I think, because we weren’t in the same field. He was a broadcaster and I was a teacher.

I knew he loved his work though.

When he was a child, he loved two things: sports and radio. He was always running around, playing sports, every imaginable physical game that came his way:  basketball, football, ping-pong, racquetball, baseball, tennis, whatever. Basketball was his all-time favorite sport. He also loved to listen to the radio. He played with the dial constantly, sifted through the AM stations, kept his ear out for Casey Kasem Top 40, and rushed to respond to “be the tenth caller…,” hoping to win a prize.

He won a huge prize career-wise: finding work that wove together those two childhood interests. Three just retired from a long career with Voice of America. Let me share this from VOA’s mission statement:

Since its creation in 1942, Voice of America has been committed to providing comprehensive coverage of the news and telling audiences the truth. Through World War II, the Cold War, the fight against global terrorism, and the struggle for freedom around the globe today, VOA exemplifies the principles of a free press.

Voice of America, https://www.insidevoa.com/p/5831.html

My brother Three hosted an English language radio show broadcast to Africa about his one great love in life: sports. 

Here I was at his retirement, visiting VOA for the first time ever. We arrived at his office near the Mall in Washington, D.C. just in time to witness a motorcade on a neighboring street – police on motorcycles escorting seven black SUVs, sirens blaring. It made me smile to see this, thinking about how many years this was my daily experience, being in the midst of this hustle and bustle. Now, I am like a tourist, oohing and aahing, trying to guess what important person is being chaperoned to the U.S. Capitol.

The VOA building was fascinating. These flags in the entry hall represent all the different languages in which broadcasts are offered:

I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of his retirement function. I quickly assessed how much his colleagues loved him. What a wonderful experience for me, his big sister, to hear these accolades! It was so amazing to view him through this whole new lens.

The line that made me laugh so much:

“If the race was between two dead turtles, he’d still make the race exciting.”

This was one compliment made my eyes water:

He offered me space and freedom to create and express the way I wanted and then he cheered me on.

He would have made a very fine teacher, I think. (Yes, big sister here, having the last word.)

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#SOL24-29 Soft Words

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If we took violence out of our everyday language, would we notice more clearly the violence in the world? Does our language itself numb us to real pain and tragedy in the world, becoming almost a blanket or a throw that we hide beneath, normalizing the horrors around us?

These aren’t really my thoughts, but a paraphrasing or extension of the poet Ocean Vuong’s. He speaks about the preponderance of weaponized words in our ordinary vocabulary (Krista Tippett, On Being, “A Life Worth of Our Breath” April 30, 2020/updated May 3, 2023) and his message lingers in my head. I repeated some of his thoughts to a friend, reading from the transcript:

I think we’re still very primitive in the way we use language and speak, particularly in how we celebrate ourselves — “You’re killing it.”

But one has to wonder, what is it about a culture that can only value itself through the lexicon of death? I grew up in New England, and I heard boys talk about pleasure as conquest. “I bagged her. She’s in the bag. I owned it. I owned that place. I knocked it out of the park. I went in there, guns blazing. Go knock ‘em dead. Drop dead gorgeous. Slay — I slayed them. I slew them.” What happens to our imagination, when we can only celebrate ourselves through our very vanishing?

Ocean Vuong,
On Being with Krista Tippett,
April 30, 2020/updated May 3, 2023

I said to my friend, I wonder how often we do this? How often are we using violent metaphors and phrasing?

She shot me down, I mean, she denied the possibility, saying “I never do that; maybe you do it, because you come from a military family.” 

Well, I didn’t argue with her, but I think we all use these expressions. I think Ocean Vuong is right about our language being steeped with such references. I told my friend that I really want to work on this in my own language, to pay more close attention to my verbal minefield   – I mean, the vocabulary I speak, to watch my words and notice where I slip. I started a log of ‘violent’ words that I use and hear, times when I invoke ‘death’ or cruel or brutal terms when I am actually conveying something much lighter. 

I took a shot at it. I wondered. I guessed. 

In my word journal, I write and practice ‘rewrites,’ writing the message anew by using words that offer softness, love, and kindness. 

Honestly, I am surprised by how ubiquitous this ‘verbal tic’ is for me – and how heightened my awareness when these terms are used by others. Here are a couple entries from my log:

  1. I have a love ritual at bedtime with my grandchildren, where I dump a bin of their stuffed animals on top of them after I tuck them in…yes, it’s rather silly, but it is great fun for the littles. I realized I was saying “I’m going to bombard you!” – and my immediate substitution was “I’m going to get you!” (which sounded rather ‘attacking,’ I think). After some thought, I changed the words of the game to, “Here comes a rainstorm, oh my, such rain, today!”  This offers them a gentler image before sleep.
  2. Try to name what I love about the person rather than ‘dismissing’ their uniqueness with a canned line. “You are killing me!” becomes, perhaps, “You are so quick-witted!” 
  3. Bullet journal? Bullet lists? My goodness, everyone says this. How about “dot journal/lists”? Or an ‘itemized’ journal/list? This one has me flummoxed; what to substitute for bullet?
  4. What about the word trigger; why do I use this? Might it be substituted with “awaken” or “set off”? Scares me? Makes me uncomfortable? (To illustrate how often this term is used unnecessarily, I happened upon a prayer that read – I kid you not – ‘trigger my care, Lord” – and thought, why couldn’t this be written ‘awaken my care’?) 
  5. shoot from the hip; say instead, “just a wild guess here” or “I’m being a bit impulsive, but I wonder…”

There are many more entries; my list keeps growing longer and longer. Maybe there isn’t a one-to-one replacement for every one of these terms.  Maybe more than one word is needed. Maybe the whole context needs to be rewritten. Maybe it makes sense to use the terms at certain times. I do think this is worth thinking about and that these basic twists to my language are a positive step for me.

“We often tell our students, The future’s in your hands. But I think the future is actually in your mouth.”

-Ocean Vuong
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#SOL24-19 Independence

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Today, she made her own lunch.

Insisted on it. 

Determined.

She is three years old. 

Which simply means: 

She wants and knows and must. 

Everything. 

Always. 

She can do. 

One slice of potato bread

On a grown up plate

She leaned over the big jar

Dug deep and scooped

Strawberry jam

Dropping a spoonful on the bread

Working like an artist

Spread the sweetness

With a butter knife

Drawing into the corners

Meeting each edge

Concentrating

Next, the cream cheese

A second knife from the drawer

(Nana’s eyes widen – it is sharp!)

She scratched and fiddled

Lips pursed

Leaning into the gooey spread

Wanting it on her bread

One index finger helping

Holding the bread in place

Never giving up

Big sigh of success

Two hands fold

The bread together

Eyes twinkle 

Huge smile

She takes her first bite

Best. Sandwich. Ever.

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#SOL24-18 Alligator

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I use my arms as a long set of alligator teeth as Bird sails down the slide, and I pretend to bite her, singing 

Alligator, Alligator
I want to be your friend
I want to be your friend
I want to be your friend, too
[one final chomp, with bravado]

This child’s jingle always leads to laughter, as they evade my chomping. I am not sure which early childhood “mentor” teacher (is such silliness “mentoring”?) offered this earworm to me.

I have long wondered why one would be friends with an alligator.

What a scandalous idea to teach children, right?

Wanting to show my granddaughters a photo of a real alligator, I searched for “alligator” in my vacation photos. Google only recognized a sculpture of an alligator from someone’s backyard, taken more than a year ago.

Yet, I had taken several photos of alligators on our trip this past week to the Lowcountry, South Carolina. Where did these photos go? 

We came across several alligators. Bounteous alligators. Seriously, at least two dozen alligators, lazing about, as we meandered the island over the course of our week-long vacation. They are everywhere, these dark green mysterious dangerous beings. Everywhere you go, there are also warning signs, big bold letters about ALLIGATORS LIVE HERE and USE CAUTION. Here are the warnings:

- Assume every body of water contains an alligator
- Stay at least 60 feet (4 car lengths) away from alligators.
- Alligators are ambush predators and can move faster than you or your pets.
- Keep yourself, pets and children away from water’s edge.
- Swimming or wading is prohibited in Sea Pines’ waterways.
- Feeding or harassing alligators is dangerous and illegal.
- When fishing or crabbing do not throw used bait or fish parts into the water

I am a cautious person. I am often an obedient rule-follower. I am also curious, especially about nature. I do love to take photos when I am out and about. So I snuck a few photos, when we happened upon alligators. Obviously, very bad images from a scaredy-cat photographer, because Google didn’t even discern them as existing. Let me share them with you.

Here’s an alligator on our side of the bike path, as we turned the curve on our bikes:

Here, we saw several alligators lazing on the opposite side of a lagoon:

Here’s an alligator in the forest preserve (you can spot the warning sign, on the left):

My less-than-vivid photos show you that I was hasty, hesitant, and not hovering over alligators. The only way one can begin to discern an image is through editing the photo and zooming in. I think I will share the image of the alligator sculpture with my granddaughters, so that they might actually ‘see’ one. 

Yes, I was unnerved by these sightings. One hears and reads horrid stories about alligators attacking people. Terrifying! 

“They” say that alligators will eat anything. When their stomachs are cut open, after they die, there is evidence of trash and leaves and metal and bones and more.

Once, we heard a really loud splash as we studied a turtle at the forest preserve, and immediately wondered – wait, is there an alligator nearby? We hopped right back on our bikes, and bantered as we pedaled quickly away –

I heard their eyesight is limited. 

I heard you can’t tell if they are asleep or looking right at you. 

I heard they only run straight, so you should run or pedal away in a zigzag. 

I heard you should simply run faster than the people you are with. 

(This last advice from my witty brother.)

_______

Let me close with an alligator poem, my attempt at a playful Double Dactyl, inspired by Wendy Everard, in today’s Ethical ELA Open Write. 

Alligate-Alliwait 
Missus McGoo on bike
Slowing down taking pic
While full of fright

Step too close, pause too long
Irrecoverably
Alligate for the win 
Not pretty sight 
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#SOL24-16 Sunrise

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sky before dawn

We spoke not a word as we fumbled in the dark, searching for our sweatshirts and our shoes, and trying our best not to disturb their sleeping. The door creaked when we opened it, and we slipped out and closed the door behind us as quietly as possible. We walked down the unlit stairs, making our way in the grey, to the winding path. Trees loomed like benevolent spirits with their loose-fitting Spanish moss dancing in the early morning breeze. Carolina Wren and Carolina Chickadee provided the soundtrack to our spontaneous pursuit of watching the sunrise on the beach. 

The young girl’s reed hut stood strong in the dark of dawn. She had spent the whole afternoon working on this, patiently searching for reeds in the sand, separating the lengthy and straight ones, adding these one by one to create her tiny home. I had thought the tides would sweep this away, yet here it is, greeting us on the beach.

there’s a straw hut shadowed in the forefront

I saw immediately that we were not alone in the quiet, and I admit to feeling a bit of frustration. Who were all these folks, walking and waiting, just like us, along the beach? They walked in singles and pairs, perhaps two dozen folks in all. Their dogs raced with joy across the sand. There was a threesome of young athletes, performing jumping jacks, high knees, twists, skipping, and waving their arms high.

I wanted these strangers to leave
to leave the sunrise for me 
yet why do I presume to be
overseer 
of the sunrise?

Is it somehow more mine simply because it is my first time all week getting out of bed early enough to witness it? There is more than enough for all of us. There is so much joy in the viewing.

In a touch of irony, one dog walker calls out to me – “I took a lovely photo of you two in the early morning light, would you like it?” 

Her photo was a gift, and a gentle reminder to be kind. 

The stranger gave us this photo, showing the two of us together at sunrise.

We continued our walking, towards the sunrise, slowly, slowly, slowly.

It was magnificent. 

I suppose if one watched the sunrise each and every morning, they might say this one was average. An overcast start to the day obscured the sun, and it was a full half hour after the forecasted sunrise time before the clouds released the sun to us. However, as our only sunrise of the week (thank you, last weekend’s time change), it was absolutely glorious to us.

Here is a close up of that young girl’s straw hut, in better light:

rippling 

light isn’t always boisterous
bright front and center
sometimes it is a quiet offering
wavering shyly along the margins
slow to comprehend
look to the edges for light
gift a stranger a sliver
one last glimpse of sunrise, as we return home
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#SOL24-15 Celebrate

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We had two fun ‘dinners out’ this week at the beach, celebrating special events, and both of these came with surprises. 

First up was my brother’s birthday. We enjoyed delicious Italian food at Stellini’s, a restaurant that was pleasantly filled with locals rather than tourists. The special surprise: watching raccoons invade the bird feeder out in the back of the restaurant. There were half a dozen of these little friends, taking turns, going  up and down the tree to get to this food. The waitress told us that they were now regularly feeding the raccoons, because everyone found it so entertaining to watch. I’m not entirely sure how I feel about feeding wildlife, but who says only humans should eat well? Here’s a photo (it was dark outside; I hope you can make out the image):

The second celebration of the week was Tony’s and my anniversary, 36 years of marriage. We were excited to try Ruan Thai restaurant, and the food was delicious. My sister-in-law called ahead to reserve a table for four, adding “we’re celebrating a wedding anniversary.” We walked in and discovered roses on our table, heart-shaped balloons on the booth, and a handwritten note, “Happy Anniversary! May your love continue to grow stronger every year.” How sweet is that?  All four of us were taken aback by this joyful surprise. Here’s Tony and I, and the special decorations:

Two special celebrations, two fun surprises, TWO-RRIFIC!

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#SOL24-12 Cemetery

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We are having an amazing trip to the beach, here in Hilton Head, South Carolina, enjoying long walks on the beach and easy bike rides along the leisure trails. Everything is so picture perfect. 

Until I look a little closer.

Along the ocean’s bend 
a cemetery 
surrounded by condos and 
a golf course. 

Let me say that again.

A weathered old cemetery 
loved ones buried before
the Civil War
now 
consumed by
covered by
no, smothered by 
real estate money making vacation 
homes and fairways. 

A handful of headstones.
An historical marker: 

Braddock Point Cemetery

A Gullah cemetery. 

Here’s a quote from that same website:

Located in Harbour Town, this small cemetery is the final resting place of the Chisolm and Williams families, descendants of enslaved West Africans who toiled on Braddock’s Point Plantation.

https://www.hiltonhead.com/sacred-cemeteries-in-sea-pines/

To see this juxtaposition, these solemn graves with the commercial giddy vibrance of everything else in sight, I can’t find the right words. I am absolutely appalled. 

Please tell me how this came to be. Who signed off on this development? How is this not a high crime by some public official? A white collar crime by developers? Was anyone arrested for such disrespect? Around what conference table did the soulless make the decision to build here, exactly here? 

Did ANYONE protest? Was it even debated? Did ANYONE speak up and say “I don’t think this is a good idea.”? 

Truly, 
a sickening image of capitalism, 
of white supremacy, 
of I will do what I want to do, and 
you and your loved ones do not matter at all. 

The cemetery continues to be maintained by descendents of the buried. This feels beautiful and right to me. Of course, the descendents had to fight for this privilege. They had to fight for the historical marker. They had to fight for the right to continue coming to this now gated part of the island to tend to the graves, to pray and remember. I wonder if they have to pay the $9 entrance fee at the gate, each time they visit? 

We’ll be learning more about Gullah history on the island in the days to come. According to my initial research, over 100 people were buried here; less than 40 gravesites remain. 

Here’s a 2023 article from the New York Times about Black cemeteries and the quest to preserve them, with this quote:

Washington provides little help. Late last year, Congress passed the African American Burial Grounds Preservation Act, which authorized $3 million for competitive grants to identify, research and preserve Black cemeteries. Congress has yet to appropriate even that.

New York Times, https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/27/us/black-cemeteries.html
condos swallow slave graves
 body soul spirit cannot be erased
families hold in loving homage
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